This is the main group of visitors that come to enjoy the pleasures of the Thai sex industry; those guys aged from 30 - 50. There is still a large number of men in this group that are first time visitors, especially at the younger end of the scale, but many have been many times before.
There are also plenty of men in this group that are intent on spreading the love, but I think there is a growing body of men that are here for the long-term romantic opportunities rather than for purely lustful purposes.
That being the case, I'd advise them to look elsewhere, Pattaya is not the right place to find a keeper. Online dating is a far better option at:
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There is also a very strong contingent of men that are already involved, to some extent, with Thai girls. Many of them have gone the whole nine yards and actually married their Thai sweetheart. Some have started families too.
It is still relatively rare that men in the middle-age group have actually made the permanent move from their own countries to Thailand. The reason is obvious, they have not yet accumulated the financial resources to allow such a move. Instead, they live abroad but frequently visit Thailand; those that are in Thai marriages do so to see their in-laws. Many of these men do eventually make the permanent move and retire to Thailand.
A fair proportion of the men that use the Thai sex industry do so after going through a messy divorce back home in their own country. Pattaya offers a great escape from all that trouble and strife, and for a time it really serves a purpose and allows faster recovery from broken marriages.
It's around about that time, once recovery is complete, that romantic attachments with Thai girls start to occur. Trouble often follows, breakups occur, and new Thai sexpats emerge!
It has to be said that this group is well represented by those men that have been burned by the less scrupulous ladies working in the Thailand sex trade. In fact, just about everyone has been burned at one time or another to a greater or lesser extent, and most of the rest are waiting to get burned without realising it.
It is a sad fact that getting serious with a girl you meet in a bar is a recipe for disaster, and it's a disaster that happens again and again before people learn how to do the dating thing correctly. Unfortunately, it's a lesson that we rarely learn from the mistakes of others...