Thai Gold Diggers & Liars
Unfortunately, lying Thai gold diggers do litter the dating scene when it comes to relationships with us westerners. The reason for this is quite well known; we are very often seen as being filthy rich... and immensely stupid! There is some good news though; it only takes a little caution on our part, and a determination not to make any exceptions, to install the safeguards that will usually weed out the most unsavoury characters in the online scene.
There's no doubt that mobile phones, the internet, dating
sites and apps are all impacting on the nightlife scene. These days, the
best looking girls are found on:
My recommended Thai dating site
Amongst the western men in Thailand there are plenty of easy pickings
for the naughty girls to focus on, which means that their schemes aren’t
often the most elaborate, and a sensible fellow who uses his brain and
ignores his ears can usually avoid getting into any romantic troubles.
Steering clear of Thai gold diggers in the online dating scene should be your top priority if you are looking for anything more than a casual relationship, because falling victim to lying Thai women can easily strip you of your life-savings, your pride, and your dignity… and a lot more in extreme cases!
With this in mind, and assuming that you have already made contact with an online lady or two, here is a very good tactic to employ – set up a second online profile that you can use under a pseudonym name. The idea is that the girls you contact under your main profile will be unaware that you also have a second profile.
Thai girls don't usually like tanned skin, but they know we westerners do...
If you use your second profile to keep in touch with your girl
throughout the first few months of your relationship, you will soon find
out whether or not the things that she tells the ‘other’ you are
consistent with what she tells the real you. For example, she may well
tell the real you that she has cancelled her online dating account
altogether, and she may well actually do that. What she might not tell
you is that she is still in contact with several other suitors by email,
Skype, SMS, telephone or whatever.
If she continues talking to the other you even after declaring that she
is now not in contact with anyone else, you’ll know that you have a
trickster on your hands. To make use of this tactic you will, of course,
need to pay for two online accounts at your preferred dating site (I’m
offering you some free Thai dating advice here… I never said it would
free to act upon it!), but this is a relatively cheap way of gaining
some evidence of your lady’s character.
Most online Thai gold diggers have numerous targets and it makes sense to be aware of suspicious behaviour with regard to their online profiles. For example, if a girl that you are in contact with suddenly becomes unreachable under one account but starts contacting you via another account, you should ask her what happened to her original account. If you get an answer to that question that doesn’t sound plausible, it may well be that she is seeing someone else and that, as a way of demonstrating her loyalty to the other guy, she closed her original dating account.
Another thing to be wary of with Thai gold-diggers comes when they suggest traveling to Bangkok (or wherever) to see you, but that she has no money for the travel costs. If you volunteer to pay those costs you might end up paying a few thousand baht to a lying Thai woman that lives just around the corner. If you are intent on meeting a traditional rural girl then this is a risk you may have to accept but, in any case, a few thousand baht is not much to worry about.
When meeting up with a Thai girl in person, you could test her character by suggesting that you head over to a red-light district e.g. Nana Plaza in Bangkok. If she agrees to this then I'm afraid that you have probably got a naughty girl on your hands because there’s no way a respectable lady would knowingly go anywhere near these places. This is a risky tactic though; in suggesting such a venue, an honest girl will assume that you are a naughty boy, so leave this tactic alone until you already have a reason to be suspicious or you could end up scaring off a regular girl.
A major selling point of the dating sites is that you can travel alone and easily arrange to meet up with girls before you get to Thailand. The best sites to use for this are:
Thai Friendly & Thai Cupid
Breaking up with Thai gold diggers…
A tougher situation arises when you get attached to someone whom you start to suspect is seeing other men whilst denying it. Thai gold diggers can lie with total conviction and it is surprisingly easy to be a convincing liar, so don’t trust your instincts. In these circumstances you should just walk away but, if you feel that you need evidence, there are private investigators in Bangkok who will be able to keep an eye on her and uncover the truth. Generally speaking though it’s not worth it unless you are already deeply involved and have financial/family ties with her.
It will not be cheap to do this, especially if the investigator has to travel a long way, but allowing unscrupulous Thai gold diggers to work their schemes to full fruition can be a dangerous path to take. Things will be more costly in the long run, so consider hiring someone to check her out if it will put your mind at ease or allow you to prepare your escape plan in the event that your suspicions are confirmed.
You can usually stipulate what evidence you require from an investigator, but be realistic about it and stick with your judgement if the evidence convinces you that you’ve been taken in by a naughty girl. You can guarantee that denials from a naughty girl will flow like a torrent no matter how damning any evidence is so, if you can avoid it, don’t discuss the evidence… just move on!
Spotting Thai gold diggers
If you are unsure as to whether or not your girl is a naughty girl, there are a few common characteristics that Thai gold diggers and other unsuitable girls often display. If your girl has one, some, or all of these things it doesn’t prove anything, but here is a piece of excellent free advice… you shouldn’t require proof! There’s usually very little proof available with these things until it is way too late. In Thailand you have so many options open to you that you really shouldn’t take unnecessary risks when it comes to trust. Here are a few easy-to-spot common signs to be wary of when you meet up with any Thai girl:
- A lady with one or more tattoos or piercings
- A lady that smokes cigarettes or drinks excessively
- A lady with poor education but good English
- Outgoing, loud, confident type personalities
- Girls who take telephone calls outside your earshot
- Girls who switch off their telephones
- Girls who wear revealing clothes, heavy make-up etc
You may wonder why some of these items are on the list; let’s just say that all of these things are signs that your girl is not the sort of respectable Thai lady that is suitable for a loving long-term relationship. That's the last of my advice about avoiding Thai gold diggers; if I get to the point where I can guarantee a 100% risk-free technique I'll write it up. In the meantime you'll need to accept some element of risk… at least it adds to the excitement :)