Hacked! - Online Thai Dating Advice
Whilst the best way to meet regular Thai women is to do it in person in Thailand (going after Thai work colleagues, friends of friends, and so on), but this is not feasible for the vast majority of guys who are based overseas and don’t have any Thai friends.
That being the case, the online dating sites are your best option, but only if you know how to use them properly!
The relatively small number of western expats that do understand how to use Thai dating sites, whilst avoiding the tricksters, will tell you that it is much better to approach the online girls who are too shy to post pictures of themselves. That’s not what the vast majority of guys do; they almost invariably focus on the girls that post the most attractive pictures of themselves, with heavy make-up and revealing clothes…
If you know anything at all about Thai women then you will know that these are not the right ladies to be focusing on, not if a long-term successful romance is your objective.
Going about your online Thai dating endeavours with a more strategic approach will gain you access to the best girls, so let’s detail that approach now.
I advise you to prepare a very short and simple introduction message to be sent to the ladies on your chosen Thai dating site, something like:
“Hello my name is ____, I’m interested in Thailand and would like to meet a nice lady there. I’ve attached my photo, can you send me your photo please?”
- Use the search filter to find Thai singles that fit your specifications i.e. age, location, body type etc., and discard profiles with photos.
- Send your message to a batch of ladies, maybe 20 to 40 in total, and only reply to those girls who send you a picture that you like.
- Rinse and repeat the process until you have a few women that you’d like to meet up with.
- At some point, it would be a good idea to have a short video chat so that you can confirm their appearances, and so that they can confirm yours.
You can have some confidence that these girls will not be in contact with many other men because the online girls that don’t display pictures on their profiles get completely ignored by most guys.
On the first point, related to filtering girls, there are many considerations to make as to what sort of respectable lady you want, so have a read of my page about Thai girlfriends, it will help you to decide.
If things get really serious, you might start thinking about marriage... if so make sure you learn what to expect by reading my page about Thai wives.
When messaging or chatting with these ladies, make sure that you are
respectful. Under no circumstances should you mention anything about
sex. Any respectable girl will be immediately scared off by that. Thai
sex attitudes amongst polite society are very different to what you find
in the tourist areas.
Your best bet is to use plain language and
avoid using phrases that have meanings different to the sum of the
words, because those meanings will likely be lost in translation.
You might like to think that you can easily score with the good girls that are 20 or more years younger than you, even if you are bald, overweight and so on. Sadly, this is not the case, not with the good girls at least. You may well be able to have lots of short-term fun with beautiful young ladies, but you need a more realistic target if you want true-love.
That’s not to say that you need to settle for someone who has absolutely no sex appeal. You will easily be able to find girls on Thai dating sites who are much better looking than those available to you in the west. You can find good girls that are significantly younger, good looking, and slim, but keep it sensible. You need to honestly assess your own attractiveness level and act accordingly.
Thai ladies love romance...
If you are using an online Thai dating site to target girls in the 30+
age group, you will find that western men are highly sought after.
Believe it or not, at this age many Thai men will consider the girls to
be too old. The girls know it and so they turn to westerners.
Additionally, if the girl has a child, many Thai men will rule out any
possibility of marriage, so there are also lots of single mums looking