Getting into a Pattaya romance
So…, I left this girl because getting seriously involved with a bar girl
was definitely not something that was on my agenda. No surprise then
that the very next girl I met was the one I ended up marrying.
that you would have forgiven my change of heart if you had seen the girl
in question. I know everyone has slightly different tastes, some focus
on long legs, some focus on big chests, some only care about pretty
faces, but I think that most people would give this girl 10 out of 10 in
the looks department overall.
For me, she was one in a million – just
about perfect in a physical sense. I liked her company too; she spoke good
English and had a really good sense of humour. I know now that there
were endless warning signs that I should have been aware of but, like I
said, it was my first trip to Thailand and I knew almost nothing.
first lie came out of her mouth within minutes of me meeting her. She
told me that she was 23 years old, I found out a few months later that
she was a mere 18 at the time. As the night wore on she told me a few
unlikely stories but, to be honest, I didn't much care about it as I
wasn’t exactly intending marriage at this point.
My mind was preoccupied
with different intentions and I really didn’t think that calling her a
liar would accelerate my chances of satisfying those intentions. Bar girls lie as much as they tell the truth... insisting on the truth
would have cut our conversations in half. Anyways, the plan worked a
treat and the next couple of weeks were total, complete and utter, bliss.
Things took a serious turn about a month after I left Thailand when I got a phone call in the middle of the night. Before you jump to conclusions, no, she wasn’t asking me for money. There was no sick water buffalo or any of that nonsense. No, much better... she was pregnant!
Up to that point in my life I’d always assumed that I was the kind of chap that would have no problem whatsoever in dismissing a situation like this as being a complete S.E.P. (Douglas Adam’s joke – means somebody else’s problem). It didn’t feel like that at all though, the girl was in tears, I felt awful, and I knew that being a single mother would be a massive problem for this girl.
On top of that, Thailand is not as wealthy as the west and denying my responsibilities would be the same as condemning the child to a life with limited opportunities. My decision was to head back to Thailand to confirm the pregnancy.
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All right, the truth is that if any of the other girls I'd met had called me with the same story I think that I would have done things differently, but this girl was tugging at my heart strings.
I spent another glorious 2 weeks with her in Thailand; she was visibly pregnant and the timing suggested that the child was conceived during our time together on my first visit. I agreed to return again as soon as I could after the child was born. At that time we would have a DNA test to prove paternity.
We had discussed marriage on my second visit to Thailand and on my third visit, 1 year and 8 days after we first met, we tied the knot (paternity being proven by this point).
My wife and I lived with our son in the UK for the next two years (on
and off as she had to return to Thailand every 6 months). There’s not
much to say about this time that would be of any particular interest to
you, we were a normal happy family, or so I thought.
that was becoming a significant problem was the financial situation I
was getting into. What with visa applications, regular flights to
Thailand, regular requests from the Thai family for financial
assistance, along with all the usual family costs, my resources were
being seriously stretched. Along with the rest of the Western world at
this time I discovered a brilliant financial solution – borrow money
like crazy and don’t even think about how I might one day pay it back!
run up several personal loans, maxed out 4 credit cards and borrowed
from my parents. I was putting all my hopes on getting promotion at
work. Unfortunately, that didn’t materialize. In fact it was worse than
that… once the 2007 financial meltdown kicked in, I had to accept a pay
freeze on my basic pay, a reduced bonus, certain allowances being
cancelled and a freeze on any chance of promotion. I was getting close
to breaking point and had to cut back on the expenditure, plain and
simple, but try explaining to a Thai girl that you are going to need to
cut back on your spending habits – it’s guaranteed to challenge your