Kuching Escorts, Nightlife, & Sex

For guys interested in P4P, Kuching escorts, by which I mean all different types of hookers, are more readily available in this city than in other parts of the country. It is Malaysia's version of sin-city, albeit a much tamer version some SEA offerings.

The nightlife here is a bit special, and it's much cheaper than other destinations in Malaysia. Crowds tend to be young and the girls are something else.

There are a lot of Thai girls online that are just looking for some short-term fun with an exotic Westerner like you! Serious romance or no-strings fun is available on:

My recommended Thai dating site

Malaysia is a conservative country and it’s hard to meet and pick-up girls during the day, but when darkness falls it’s a different story. It isn't all about P4P either, regular decent girls are more approachable here, so you can find some relationship worthy ladies if you want to.

Some of the expats in Kuching, mainly middle-aged to older men in their 50’s or 60’s, like to hang out in the bars. They’re out here for two things only, beer and sex, and they always get both when they want it...

Padungan Road is the touristy area in Chinatown. You’ll find bars and restaurants around here. It starts to get busy around 5pm and most venues stay open until midnight or later. The typical westerner starts out drinking here. Later they head to one of the clubs in Travillion Mall.

Kuching, Malaysia, the city comes alive at night...

The Kuching nightlife isn’t as wild as places like Bali or Ibiza, it’s much more toned down. People are relaxed and friendly. Beer is between 8 to 15 RM ($2 to $3.50 USD) in most bars and 15 RM++ in clubs. In other words, a night out in Kuching is cheaper than other places in Malaysia.

You’ll only see a few westerners drinking in the pubs and even fewer in the clubs so, if you are a westerner, you'll stand out a bit more. It’s a good thing though, because you’re more of a novelty to the Malaysian women!

The best places to go in Kuching

In Kuching, you can order bottles of beer from restaurants and sit and relax. My favourite pub was Drunk Monkey Old Street Pub on Padungan. This was my introduction to the Kuching nightlife. It opens from 5 pm until midnight and has a selection of European beers on tap. The local people drink here and local girls tend to hang around in big groups.

I had a friend who always had success at the Drunk Monkey. He rarely failed to leave without a number at the very least. The strategy was simple, when the girls are in big groups, start chatting to the guys. Later, the girls seem to fall over trying to talk to you!

Travillion Mall, near Padungan, is where the nightlife begins after the pubs shut.

The area is full of clubs and students. I’ve been to the Zebra’s Club once or twice. It’s nowhere near as good as the clubs in KL. In fact, I found it was small, not worth the price of beer, and a little unsafe. As I said before, few foreigners go to the clubs. You’re an easy target and these clubs were once notorious for gangs.

The city has done a good job of cleaning itself up in recent years, but you should still be wary. When I was there, alcohol and drugs flow, Kuching prostitutes wander around, and gang members lurk in the corners. It's not the easiest place to find casual encounters without worrying if it’s a setup! And believe me, sometimes they are.

Kuching Girls and Falling in Love

By Sam (from Malaysia)

Malaysian and Kuching girls have a reputation for being kind, loving, and sweet. They tend to be girly-girls, very feminine, but at the same time they can get jealous and temperamental. I can confirm that these generalizations have some truth to them, and I should know, because I'm married one of these ladies.

Before delving into my personal story, let’s have a quick look at what makes Kuching girls different to those in the rest of Malaysia. The country as a whole is a melting pot of nationalities; West Malaysia, including Kuala Lumpur, has a larger number of Muslims. Sabah and Sarawak in East Malaysia, where Kuching is located, tend to have more Christians.

Meeting the sexiest Thai ladies for fun times is getting easier and easier to do via the online dating sites. A lot of girls like the extra discretion that is offered on:

My recommended Thai dating site

A lot of Kuching girls are Christians, and they take it seriously, attending regular church services. My wife and her family attended every Sunday; most of my friends in Sarawak did the same. So, you can expect that going to church will probably play a big role in the life of a typical lady from this area of Malaysia, and this can be both good and bad for westerns.

Kuching girls are usually trustworthy and monogamous, which played an essential role in my relationship, as you’ll see later. It also means they have a familiar set of values and treat their partners well. The downside is that the whole kissing on the first date is a lot less common, and one night stands even less so. Sex or fooling around is usually saved until later in the relationship when things are much more secure and long-term focused. Don’t be surprised if full intercourse is off-limits until after marriage.

You can find a quick fling if you want; there are some girls who are loose, and finding a lady of the night isn’t difficult in the bars.

How I Met My Wife

I was living in Kuala Lumpur at the time working as an English teacher. I was in my late 20’s, single, and living my dream. I met a few Malaysian women, but nothing worked out. Then one day the phone rang and I was transferred to Sarawak. Two days later I was on a plane to Kuching.

My experience with dating in Malaysia up to this point was unsuccessful. In Kuala Lumpur, different nationalities stick to their own groups. The Malays stayed with Malays. The Chinese and Indians stuck to their own groups and didn’t mix well. I found it hard to make friends there, let alone find that special someone.

On arrival I checked into my hotel and then went straight downtown for a beer and a bit of scouting; it was the early evening and quite crowded. The bar I chose wasn’t seedy and there were a lot of young girls hanging around and laughing. After my second beer a girl from the table next to me walked over looking embarrassed. Her friends, a mixture of different races, were giggling behind. She told me that I looked lonely and that I should join them… so I did.

The standard of English was a lot worse than in KL; the girl who invited me over could speak English well but the others couldn’t. I practised my Bahasa, the local Malay language, and they were all so impressed by the few words that I knew. It was an enjoyable night and we exchanged numbers at the end of it, promising to meet again and then going our separate ways.

Kuching Girls and the Dating Game

It started off with texts and then meeting up again with her friends. We were about the same age and she worked as an English teacher. After a while, it was just the two of us that would meet up and there was definitely a spark between us but, when I broached the subject she looked a little embarrassed. Dating was slow progress.

Sarawakian and Kuching girls tend to be shy and conservative; it took a few months before we made our romance official. We played the usual dating games e.g. romantic dinners, trips to the movies, and days out. One thing that was very different to what I was familiar with back at home was no-kissing on the first date! Not until we’d been together for some time in fact, and sex was out of the question. I tried it on a few times and got nowhere. She later explained that things need to go slow. She was a Christian, she had to be sure I was the one. Whenever we went away for a few days, we had to have separate beds in the hotel!

I liked this girl and so I respected her decision. At the time, it was frustrating to have to put in all the effort to woo and amaze her and not see much progress. But, it was worth it in the end. I was quite lucky compared to other friends. Most of them had to wait until their wedding night to consummate things. Of course, not everyone is like this, but if your girl is reticent at the start and wants to take things slow, it’ll last.

Everything was going great until I had to return to the UK. We had been together for almost a year and it was serious but I went back for almost six months. The thing is, I trusted her completely. She was worried that I’d leave her and not return to Sarawak. After days of convincing, she finally came around. She was clingy, but not in an obsessive or insane kind of way.

We had to Skype every few days for hours at a time. We also messaged each other all the time on Facebook. She wanted daily love and affection and I had to show that her man was there, even though he was far away. This was different. We had to be in touch more often than you would expect when you’re in a relationship with a Western girl. After speaking to other friends who dated Kuching girls, they agreed on the need for this lots of Skype contact.

Kuching, Sarawak riverKuching is a small city on the Sarawak river.

The relationship is more co-dependent than independent. Just for the sake of comparison, an old friend married a girl from Finland; they each take a separate holiday every year with their friends – not something that would endear you to many Kuching girls!

When I came back to see my girl, we got engaged.

Being accepted into the family

It didn’t take long to be accepted into the immediate family – her parents had lived in Australia for a while and so they were familiar with Western culture. The extended family was a different story though. Gossip, rumours and criticism spread around the aunties and uncles, especially from those who lived outside of the city. I was their favourite topic of conversation for months. It took about six months for some of them to even accept that we were getting married and even at our wedding I was expected to follow their customs and traditions rather than my own.

This wasn’t because they’re nasty people, it’s because they live a basic and rural lifestyle and know no other way. Marrying a foreigner is completely unorthodox.

A few years on, everything is fine and wonderful. Well, we decided to move away from Sarawak to stop the questions and prying eyes of family members! We’re in a happy, stable marriage. The relationship was slow to start and I had to be patient to have certain needs fulfilled but it did lead to a marriage that is full of love and affection, and we trust each other completely.

Three Key Things to Remember

  • Kuching Girls are conservative, shy, and trustworthy. If your partner isn’t enthusiastic about being physical at the start of the relationship, don’t worry. It means that they are definitely in it for the long-term.
  • Expect the family to be nosy. People will gossip and may get the wrong impression. People from rural Sarawak think that all westerns are the same as they see on TV. You’re no exception in their eyes.
  • If you’re after a long-term partner who will always love and treat you well, consider dating a lady from Kuching.

Kuching Escort Prices and P4P Option

I said earlier than some of the older western men are here for beer and sex. No advice is needed for the former, but here are two simple ways of getting the latter.

Kuching escorts and other prostitutes are your first option. You can spot freelance sex workers easily around some of the bars and clubs. Some areas are seedier than others. The obvious thing to note is that they are much more brazen and will happily approach you.

The Kuching waterfront

If you prefer to make arrangements online there are several Kuching escort agencies to choose from. Escort prices follow the western model rather than the SE Asian model, i.e. whereby an hour is affordable, it gets massively more expensive for longer term appointments. As you'd expect, the girls do tend to be a lot more attractive than their freelance sisters...

In my experience, there are more in prostitutes here than in the rest of Malaysia. For those that are interested, the Kuching Red Light District is located towards the end of the waterfront.

The second way to find P4P sex in Kuching is to go to a massage parlor. In Kuching, as in the rest of Malaysia and most of SEA, a massage parlor is often synonymous with prostitution. It’s more obvious what’s going on here than in KL, but don’t expect it to be in your face like in Cambodia or Thailand.

Look for massage parlors with Thai girls, they're much more likely to offer the extra services that you are looking for. Typical prices range from 50 to 100 RM ++ ($11 to $22 USD). Full intercourse is much higher. For some, the Kuching nightlife isn’t complete without a stop here and, from what I hear, it’s much easier to find a prostitute in Kuching than in other parts of Malaysia.

Kuching nightlife dangers

I always felt safe drinking around Padungan. I didn’t feel quite so safe in the clubs at Travillion Mall. In the Kuching Red Light District I didn’t feel safe at all.

The biggest danger is becoming a target for robbery by gangs. Foreigners stand out. Gangs may work together with prostitutes from the streets. Many of them are on drugs.

Crystal meth use is rampant. As with any city, the people that hang around at 3 am in the morning probably don’t have the nicest of intentions.

A few years ago two British students were stabbed in the Red Light District in Kuching. They disagreed over the price of crystal-meth. The attackers were high; people carry weapons and they aren’t afraid to use them. Use your common sense and avoid dodgy areas in the middle of the night.

The Sarawak River, Kuching.

Granted, it has been a few years since I was a regular on the Kuching nightlife scene. Friends tell me that it has changing and that it isn’t as bad as it once was. My advice is to get talking to some locals at one of the bars along Padungan and hear their opinions before venturing off into the unknown. You’ll see a selection of older western men in town who will be able to fill you in with the details.

Final thoughts

Meeting girls during the day is difficult and the clubs may be an unwise option. The best time and place is at the bars along Pandungan.

Not every girl that you meet will go back to your hotel.

A lot of them are reasonably serious Christians, which makes them less loose. They may be flirty, but may not want to sleep with you. You need to be patient. I’m not saying it’s impossible to get a one night stand, far from it, it’s just that casual sex in Kuching, with non-prostitutes, is not a given.

So, now you have the low-down on Kuching escorts, dating and nightlife; here are a few key points to remember:

  • Beer is cheaper than in other parts of Malaysia
  • The atmosphere isn’t as wild as other parts of Malaysia
  • The girls are conservative, but not as much as KL
  • Girls who are flirty may not want sex
  • Casual encounters and sex in Kuching may be more difficult to find than back home
  • Escorts & Prostitutes can be found. Or, go to a Thai massage parlour for a happy ending
  • Take extra care when you’re in the Red Light District. If drugs are your thing, be even more careful

Follow these points and enjoy the city. As I said at the start, the Kuching nightlife is something special if you want a few drinks, to relax, or to get laid.

This sweet, sexy lady is 26 years old and she's hoping to meet a western man for a relationship. Would you like to meet lots of girls just like her?

Then join my Recommended Dating Site:

No, I hate sex

Homepage | Main Malaysian Girls Page