Two Hua Hin bar girls & their new lives
As I have said, Som was working in a bar when I first met her, but her
age was really counting against her. There was another woman working is
the same bar and, like Som, she was a lovely woman but also past her
prime. Out of the blue one night their lives were about to change. Two
middle-aged German men started hitting on Som and Nam, and by the end of
the night the four of them had left the bar together.
The daytime facilities in Hua Hin are worth a visit.
The next time I saw the girls, about a month or so later, Som told me that both she and Nam were in a relationship with the two guys that they met that night.
It turns out that one of the guys is a German, while the other is Austrian. Things were looking good for both Som and Nam, and after about six months or so, Nam and the Austrian guy got legally married. Today they live in a housing development just across the road from where I live, and the three of us are good friends, seeing each other on an almost daily basis. I could write an entire book about Nam’s husband because he has quite a personality.
He’s certainly not very popular amongst the locals in our area but I put that down to the fact that he is very much a straight talker; a personality trait which generally doesn’t go down very well in Thailand. Despite his somewhat annoying personality, I still get along with him and he has at least been a good husband to Nam.
For the record – Nam has never shown any interest in going back to the bars. I know her very well and she is the most faithful wife you could imagine; her level of loyalty is not typical of most Hua Hin bar girls, but it is true of Nam.
Som, on the other hand, landed in a very different situation in that
she has never legally married the German guy that she met that night.
Actually, it would be more accurate to say that he has never agreed to
marry her, but they do live together.
Soi Bintabaht is Hua Hin's main bar girl area.
Earlier I mentioned that Som
was married to a gay Thai man until very recently, and I always assumed
that this was the reason for her and the German guy not getting
married. Later I learned that her German partner knew nothing of the
marriage, and he still doesn’t know that Som only recently got divorced.
I guess Hua Hin bar girls have their secrets…
When Som and her German partner first hooked up, they had a cracking
relationship, albeit a little strange. I say strange because while he
paid and still does pay all the bills, and while he pays for most of the
groceries, Som has to work a full-time job in order to have money to
spend, and money to buy things for herself. Sadly, their relationship
has deteriorated over the years.
They still live together and
they still have the same sort of setup, but the flame that was once
there has all but died. I personally believe that they are both only
continuing with this setup for the sake of their daughter.
I know that she is unhappy in her relationship; for one thing, she and I were to end up in bed together…