Meeting girls the traditional way
The biggest advantage and disadvantage is the fact that you’re a Westerner. There aren’t many around, which makes you more of a prize, but at the same time you probably can’t speak Vietnamese and they only know a word or two of English.
The problem is that you’ll get the attention you desire, but when the girl comes over you won’t be able to communicate. So, you can meet girls at restaurants or coffee shops and they will be interested and intrigued to be with a foreigner. I had several awkward moments in a coffee shop trying to have a conversation through gestures.
In the end it failed big time. Perhaps this isn’t ideal unless you speak Vietnamese or are up for the challenge. A friend used Google translate to communicate with someone he dated for three months. It’s not impossible.
If a girl wants to meet a foreigner, she’ll often choose to use a dating
website. If you contact a few online girls and arrange to meet them,
expect at least 30-40% to cancel or to not turn up.
Most of the westerners I meet who sign up to dating websites in Da
Nang end up marrying the girl they dated. Only a small number have had
problems with scams or the relationship breaking up, and even then it
wasn’t the fault of the girl.
The first date will more likely than
not be at a coffee shop. This will be during daylight hours or early
evening. Expect Da Nang girls to turn up to the first date with a female
friend. They’ll probably be talking to each other in Vietnamese and
giggling a lot. You won’t understand it but don’t let this bother you,
it happens all the time.
The second and third dates may or may not be just the two of you.
Some Da Nang girls are very enthusiastic. In fact, enthusiastic may not
be a strong enough word, obsessive is the adjective of choice for a few
In the early stages of the relationship you may get a lot of
phone calls or texts. Much more than when you’re dating in your home
Again, don’t let this freak you out. Foreigners are rare,
which makes the ladies more eager to hold onto you. They also want to
know that you’re committed before they let their barrier down.
the bars, I hear the expats complain about their girls giving mixed
messages. A lot of texting makes you think they’re really into you yet,
when you try it on, the wall goes up again…