A clear distinction between Pattaya girls and the regular Thai girls that you will meet in the non-tourist focused areas of the kingdom needs to be drawn if you value your sanity. Following the advice that I’ve given about regular Thai girls is a fine thing, but applying it to the ladies in Pattaya will put you at risk of landing yourself in some trouble by getting emotionally attached to a gold-digger extraordinaire.
Meeting the sexiest Thai ladies for fun times is getting easier and easier to do via the online dating sites. A lot of girls like the extra discretion that is offered on:
If you ignore everything else that I tell you, trust me on this one, getting too attached is like asking for trouble. Stick with regular girls if a lasting romance is what you are looking for.
These girls are the stuff of dreams if you just want a casual holiday romance, but they can be the stuff of nightmares if you allow yourself to get too emotionally involved, and don’t go thinking that it can’t happen to you; it is much easier than you might believe. On the other hand, what Pattaya girls do offer you is the opportunity to recapture the glory days of your misspent youth… and then some!
NOTE: I am aware that there are some readers who will be a little concerned at the tone of my writing here so let me clarify my position. As regards the pay-for-pleasure industry, I neither promote it nor condemn it; but it does exist and I’m not going to ignore it. The arguments as to the morals of participating in this industry, or not, are unclear in my opinion. My viewpoint is that consenting adults are best placed to use their own judgement in deciding what is right for them. With that said, let’s have a look at just exactly what is on offer.
I’m going to be absolutely clear at this point, it is the girlfriend
experience (GFE) that Pattaya girls are best known for. For those of you
that don’t know what this means, it refers to the type of relationship
that you would be able to have with the working-girls, assuming that you
did decide to spend some alone-time with one.
You can get a GFE from working girls the world over but the difference is in terms of cost. In the west I’ve seen prices quoted in thousands of dollars for a single night’s entertainment; in Thailand you can find a very attractive lady for as little as 2,000 Thai Baht per day (less than $60) – and for that she’ll treat you like a superstar!
Most western men think of a liaison with a prostitute as being a very sordid, business-like engagement where you can touch this, but you can’t touch that, this is allowed, this isn’t and so on. Forget all that nonsense when you are in Pattaya. I’m not saying that absolutely anything goes, but you can expect the same sort of intimacy that would receive from a genuine girlfriend back home and you’ll be treated with utmost care and respect too.
It’s no wonder that so many men have fallen into the honey-trap of a long-distance relationship with one of these ladies, they really do take care of your every whim when you are with them. The trick is to utterly refuse to allow your ego to convince you that you really are a younger, better looking version of George Clooney and to make sure that you do not form any lasting attachment. Trouble is almost certainly in store for you if you do.
There are differences in the sort experiences that you’ll have with the working-girls depending on what sort of establishment you met in. I’ve given lots of advice on that in the Thai Bar Girls Section and I recommend that you have a good read of the information given there if you are planning a trip to Thailand any time soon. It will prepare you for some of the things that you will experience, and hopefully it will also prepare your emotional defences from falling prey to one of these lovely sirens.
Many of them are so petite, sweet, and softly spoken that you’ll want to whisk them up, wrap them in cotton wool, and sing them to sleep with a lullaby…. amongst other things that you’ll want to do with them!
As much as you might think that they share your attraction, some of the girls are not even heterosexual and some have lesbian partners that work with them in the bars. Sometimes you’ll spot a girl go off to get the approval of her girlfriend before heading off with a customer. In other cases the girl may be heterosexual, but she is married and her husband is fully aware of how she earns her money. If a girl is not married, she will still usually have a boyfriend hanging around somewhere in the background, no matter how much she denies it.
There are a lot of Thai girls online that are just looking for some short-term fun with an exotic Westerner like you! Serious romance or no-strings fun is available on:
As I’m giving advice in this section about Pattaya girls, Bangkok girls and working-girls from other areas of Thailand, you’ll no doubt want to know about the differences that set these places apart. I’ve given a little information on this at the bottom of the page, but I’ll describe the working-girls of Pattaya right now because Pattaya is by far the largest and most popular destination for tourists seeking the pleasure of some female company. For more detail, have a look at my dedicated site about Pattaya.
As an additional note, if you are attracted by the idea of getting up close and personal with some Pattaya girls, my advice is to make hay whilst it lasts! The same economic development that has improved general perceptions of westerners amongst regular Thai ladies has also led to alternative job opportunities for would-be bar-girls. Whilst Pattaya is still going strong it is not as bountiful as it once was.
Technology has also played a part in moving girls away from the bars; mobile phone cameras make many scared of being seen working in a bar by someone back home, whilst online dating sites have created opportunities to find a western customer without the need to work in a bar at all. Both effects have led to declining numbers of girls in the bars, and rising prices asked by those who remain.
On the subject of Pattaya girls, you may have heard of the term bar-fine before and wondered what it is - you'll soon find out if you ever visit sin city! Basically it is a fee that is paid directly to a bar for acquiring the services of one of the girls that work there. If you want to head off with the girl, the bar will need to be compensated for releasing their employee to you. It has nothing to do with the payment that your chosen lady will want for her services, that is strictly between the two of you and nothing to do with the bar.
There are several different scenarios whereby you may be asked to pay a bar-fine, but it is only a legitimate request if it applies to a girl that works in the bar. The bar is after all paying her wages, and they aren't doing that so that she can head off with you, they want her working in the bar pulling in customers, serving beers, and so on. So the bar-fine is a release fee... or is it?
Even if you meet another customer in a bar, there are some that will want to charge you if you decide to leave together. In that case it would be a fee for having provided a meeting place. On one occasion I met a fellow Englishman in a bar and played a few games of pool with him. 20 minutes later the bar manager was asking if we would like to pay a bar-fine to leave together!
This nonsense is, of course, totally unenforceable and totally unreasonable. So politely decline to pay if you want to take a companion out of a bar if she doesn't actually work there. It does depend somewhat on the venue as to whether or not you'll be asked to pay in these circumstances - discos certainly won't charge you, and neither will the larger 'freelance' bars, but some of the smaller beer-bars might try a more opportunistic approach.
Never forget that it is much easier to find yourself getting emotionally involved with a Pattaya girl than you might think. If you have never visited Thailand before then you might be quite surprised by the attention that will come your way, and it is extremely easy to get a bit carried away by it. Many men have made this mistake, and most have ended up losing friends, family, fortunes and more. Virtually all of these men started out with the same voice speaking to them that might be speaking to you right now: “Pattaya girls are working-girls; there is no chance on this planet that I could ever become attached to such a lady”.
The reason why so many western men fall into this trap is because they can’t reconcile their own instincts with the typical deceptions that are employed by Pattaya girls and other long-game Thai working-girls. This is because their instincts are based on rules that don’t apply in a Buddhist country like Thailand where the girls that you’ll come into contact with may have had to face economic hardship the like of which we in the west never face. There is no better teacher than necessity; it has taught Thailand’s working-girls to lie convincingly like nothing you can imagine, so don’t get lulled in by their words or deeds.
The range of online dating profiles vary in terms of 'sexual liberation'...
...but you should always be on your best behaviour. Good manners are very important.
Both short term fun and serious romance is available, but choose wisely if you want the latter!
Nothing really brings the message home better than a true story, and this one is typical of the sort of things that happen if you don’t keep your relations with Pattaya girls on a casual only basis. This is a story that could easily happen to most Western first-time visitors to Thailand, so my advice is to take the time to read it carefully and let it sink in. The author has decided that, for understandable reasons, he would prefer to remain anonymous; my thanks and best wishes go to him. To read his story, click here.
Russian Girls in Pattaya
Of all the things that divide opinion amongst the Pattaya expat community, Russian ladies must be amongst the top contenders. Some men think that they are a delightful addition to the ranks of ladies that are prepared to entertain their adult fantasies, whilst others argue that they charge inflated prices and have terrible attitude. For my thoughts, click the link.
Pattaya Soapy Massage
Some of the best soapy massage parlours in Thailand are to be found in sin-city, and only Bangkok can compete for the crown of top naughty massage destination. Where Russian girls might divide expat opinion, the soapy massage does not, I’ve never heard anyone say anything but good things about the pleasures on offer. Click the link for a true story about what it entails.
Pattaya Bar Girls
As I’ve mentioned in numerous places on the site, bar girls are not suited for any sort of long-term romance but they can be a lot of fun for a holiday romance. Pattaya has got more of these ladies to choose from than any other place in the world, and some (not all) are very good looking. For some thoughts and reflections from a long-term Thailand expat, click the link.
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