Malaysian Women vs. Thai Women

Malaysian women offer more variety than other countries in the region due to the greater degree of cultural diversity there, however, the country does have a reputation for being the most boring place in South East Asia and it’s capital city Kuala Lumpur (often referred to simply as KL) is regarded as the most boring city. That’s not a good start for anyone looking for a Thailand substitute, but the country does have its selling points.

For one thing, there are fewer reported problems with online gold-diggers in Malaysia compared to other SEA countries, and there are some lovely ladies on:

My recommended Malaysian dating site

Most tourists visit either Kuala Lumpur or Penang on the main peninsula to the south of Thailand, but North Borneo also forms part of the Malaysian map. Sabah and Kuching are the main tourist destinations there and, of the two, Kuching is regarded as being the liveliest.

In terms of appearance, Malaysian women differ according to their ethnic origins. The dominant group is the ethnic Malay people who form 60% of the population. This group is predominantly Muslim and mixed marriages with westerners are very rare. Marriage to a Muslim requires conversion to Islam, or possible penalties from the state for non-conversion. There is tolerance for religious diversity in Malaysia, but the dominance of Islam is taken seriously to the extent that it is illegal to try and convert a Muslim to another faith.

The other main ethnic groups of Malaysian women are Chinese (24% and predominantly Buddhist), Indian (7% and Hindu) and all the rest (predominantly Christians of European and Middle-Eastern descent). The Christian population follows on from British colonization in the 19th century and English is widely spoken. There is little religious tension between the various ethnic/religious groups, but each keeps to its own and mixed marriages are rare.

The Petronas Towers in Kuala Lumpur

The political elite are drawn from the ethnic Malay people, but the wealthy middle-class tends to be made up of the Chinese Malaysians and they dominate the urban areas. Just as in Singapore, they hold most of the highly paid jobs in the main cities, and especially so in the finance sector.

Singapore was, for a time, part of the Malaysian federation but it only lasted a few years due to difficulties with integrating the predominantly Chinese population. The island state gained full independence in 1965 and has since built one of the most successful economies in the world with GDP per capita rates far in excess of most western countries. As you can imagine, hooking up with Singaporean girls doesn't usually allow a simple low cost lifestyle…

Malaysian women come with all the social appetites that Thai girls come with in terms of gaining face and respect from their compatriots. Many Malaysian families put car ownership at the top of their wish list even if their accommodation standard is in dire need of improvement. All self-respecting Malaysian women adorn themselves with gold jewellery if they can afford it, and the latest mobile phone is a must have accessory.

The Chinese Malaysian women are the ladies most likely to come into contact with western men, particularly those looking for romance. They increasingly meet via:

My recommended Malaysian dating site

Since English language skills are used in the business environment, knowledge of English actually elevates a person’s class, so one reason why western men are successful with Malaysian women is due to their ability to teach English to their girlfriends, this is also typical of Thailand, but I’d say that it is even more significant in Malaysia.

Malaysian men often travel to Thailand for fun with Thai girls; the wealthier Malaysian women are a bit like western women and can be demanding – keeping a girl happy is sometimes a high maintenance job. Bangkok is a popular retreat for Malaysian men, Hat Yai in South Thailand is also popular due to its close proximity to the Malaysian border.


The overall cost of living in Malaysia is actually lower than it is in Thailand but, as always, it will depend on your lifestyle choices. If you like to spend a lot of time enjoying the nightlife scene you’ll find that alcoholic drinks are expensive in Malaysia – something like 50% to 100% more depending on where you buy. The gap is a little higher between Bangkok and Kuala Lumpur, and a little narrower outside the capital cities.

However, Malaysia isn’t that great a place to go if it is nightlife action that you are seeking because it doesn’t have anything like the attractions that adorn other South East Asian countries.

In particular, if you go there looking for bar-girls you’ll be disappointed but there are quite a few freelance hookers to be found, most of them originate from the usual places e.g. Thailand, Vietnam, Philippines etc. The prices that they ask for their companionship are much higher, with some costs more comparable with western prices rather than Asian prices.

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Banyan Tree, Bangkok

The rooftop bar isn't too shabby either!

The good news is that some of the other costs are really cheap; rental costs in Bangkok and Kuala Lumpur are comparable but outside the capital cities Malaysia works out a lot cheaper than Thailand. Comparing Penang with Pattaya, a 1-bedroom apartment in the centre of town can be as much as 50% lower and when you consider that utility bills are much lower all over Malaysia (almost 40% lower) it’s not hard to work out that a man on a budget can live a very cheap existence there.

Food costs are similar to Thailand, which means you can eat at a low-end restaurant for next to nothing; clothing is cheaper, local transport is equally cheap, gym membership is cheaper… Basically, if you are looking for a place to lie low for a while, sober up, and get your body in shape, then Malaysia is a good option that’s worth considering.

Don’t forget that Malaysia is the richest country in South East Asia after Singapore, so all this comes with a well-developed infrastructure, reliable hospitals, and good schools for the kids. It is not a great place to go looking for numerous casual relationships with the local ladies, but if you’ve tired of that sort of lifestyle and are looking for somewhere to settle with your girlfriend/wife, Malaysia deserves a look.

Malaysia Safety concerns

I was a little surprised to see that, despite its relatively developed status, Malaysia is not regarded as being a particularly safe place. In fact the crime and safety stats relating to Kuala Lumpur are a lot worse than Bangkok and even Manila in the Philippines looks safer!

I have expressed my doubts about these safety stats before, as regards their accuracy relating to Pattaya, but I lack the personal experience required to cast doubt over the accuracy of stats relating to Malaysia, so I’d advise anyone thinking of staying there for any period of time to look into this more closely.

Malaysian Women; more information

Malaysian Girls – Dating culture in Malaysia has got some strong similarities with Thailand if you choose to focus on the Chinese Malaysian ladies. Ethnic Malay ladies are the largest group but their tendency to date western men is much lower for a number of reasons. Click the link for more details.

Kuala Lumpur Escorts – The escort scene in the capital city is quite well established with numerous agencies advertising online. This is quite surprising in a Muslim country but they are there none the less. You won’t find many Malaysian women working though, the girls tend to come from neighbouring countries instead.

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