When it comes to romance with regular Cambodian girls, you should be fully aware that success is not for the feint hearted. The idea that Cambodia is like Thailand was 30 years ago might not be that accurate in some ways, but in terms of the dating scene it isn’t a bad comparison. The culture gap between your own country and Cambodia is very wide, and that will play a massive part in any attempt at long-term romantic success with the ladies.
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In the aesthetics department, Cambodian girls are not thought to be the most beautiful in Asia but, before you stop reading, consider this. You might be fishing for beauties in a much smaller pond, but once you catch one you’re much less likely to face any real hurdles to getting a relationship going. In most of the Southeast Asian countries that are considered home to the most beautiful ladies, it is a tougher feat to actually score with them.
In Vietnam, for example, you will need to put extra effort into a relationship before a regular girl will date you; sex will be a distant dream and her parents are more likely to end things by refusing to approve you as a worthy suitor!
You personally might even prefer the look of Cambodian girls; they tend to be darker-skinned, slimmer on average than Thai girls, but with larger breasts. Noses might be a little flatter at the bridge, and the girls tend to be a little shorter.
As stated above, Cambodian dating culture is similar to that of traditional Thailand with Theravada Buddhism very influential in both countries, but Cambodian women and their families are even more traditional in their outlook. The majority, not all, of marriages are ‘arranged marriages’ and the bride is often a virgin until her wedding night. It is very unusual for a girl to live with her intended husband before tying the knot, and marriage will be expected very early on in a relationship – the girls’ parents will be asking her about it as early as the second date!
You should also understand that the level of poverty in Cambodia is way higher than it is in Thailand, and it is not unusual for the rich westerner to be expected to provide support for the extended family. Education costs for the son of some distant relative might not be high on your list of necessary expenses, but regular Cambodian girls and their families might have other ideas. Another possible cause of friction is your intended permanent country of residence; your lady will likely be a little less eager to move to your country than you might expect.
If all this isn’t enough to deter you in your quest, consider also that the Cambodian government has actually passed laws to stop you from marrying local ladies. You’ll need to be under 50 years of age, and you’ll need to prove that you have a huge income by Cambodian standards (somewhere in the region of $2,500 per month or more) before you’ll be allowed to marry!
For these reasons, the serious relationship scene is somewhat less popular amongst western men who date Cambodian women when compared to similar relationships around the region, but that is nothing to do with the ladies themselves. Most of them would be very happy to get serious with a ‘Barang’ (Cambodian word for foreigner – similar to the Thai word ‘Farang’).
Unfortunately, Cambodia has tended to attract the worst travellers from western society and it has become a favoured destination for Paedophiles. I hadn’t realised until recently just how big a problem it had become. For example, if you are staying in Thailand on a long-term visa then, depending on what sort of visa it is, you may need to exit the country on a fairly frequent basis after which you can immediately re-enter for another 60 or 90 days. This is the famous visa-run that many visitors go through, and it caused me some issues with UK immigration when I returned home.
The mere presence of a Cambodia visa stamp in my passport (a necessary part of the ‘visa run’) raised eyebrows and resulted in me being carted off for a customs search. Apparently, whilst Thailand has done well to curb the underage sex scene, much of it has been diverted to Cambodia, and UK immigration officers are keeping an eye open for single men travelling there…
If you are tied to life in Cambodia for one reason or another, perhaps because of work commitments, or if you are only intending a vacation there, then you may be interested in the short-term intimacy opportunities that are open to you. The naughty scene is more reserved than it is in Thailand, but it is a more intimate scene, more relaxed and with less hassle.
This might not be something that you would ordinarily consider as a long-term solution, but it is a option that some men go for. The key requirement is to be able to remain emotionally detached; you must not fall in love with any working girl, and don’t risk any sort of ongoing relationship if you feel that getting too attached is even a remote possibility. If you can live like this, then the Cambodian bar girls in Phnom Penh and Sihanoukville can be very relaxing and good company.
A long-term girlfriend experience with a Cambodian hooker will be much cheaper and less stressful if you can do away with the idea that the only happy relationship is a loving monogamous one. Consider the difference to marriage with regular Cambodian girls; her family will not be involved, you can get time alone whenever you want, get drunk with other expats, smoke cannabis for breakfast (okay, this one is illegal…), see other girls, and so on.
This is an option that doesn’t really exist in the West (unless you have very deep pockets), but some of the happiest western expats in Asia live life this way and never get too attached to any one particular girl.
Cambodian girls are regarded as being amongst the sweetest of the sweet in terms of their mannerisms; they are usually raised from an early age to take good care of their man, and most will stop at nothing to make sure you are happy and contented, but that might not be enough to ensure success in the long run.
Unless you are prepared for a life in a very poor country with poor infrastructure, healthcare and schools, where your girl’s parents might well be coming to live with you, and where you are unlikely to be understood in terms of either your language or your values, then you might want to consider some easier alternatives.
Casual fun with the regular ladies of Cambodia is not as common as it is in some parts of Asia, but there are some online opportunities at:
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The overall cost of living in Phnom Penh is surprisingly less of a bargain than you might think given that this is the second poorest country in South East Asia (after Burma/Myanmar). Overall, the cost is only slightly cheaper than it is in Bangkok, with something like a 5% saving. Obviously, that’s averaged over a sample basket of goods and how much you in particular might save is down to what composition of goods you tend to buy – and it might be very different to the sample basket.
For one thing, the cost of taking Cambodian girls from bars is not included in the representative basket so, if you are planning on enjoying the naughty scene, you’ll be happy to know that those costs are a lot lower than in Bangkok, and somewhat cheaper than even Pattaya! On top of that, if you are a budding alcoholic then you’ll be delighted to know that a beer can be had for as little as $0.50, with the average price being just $1. Hotels are also very cheap. For other costs, rental accommodation in particular, there is little to no saving. Buying prices for property are cheap though, and much lower than in Bangkok. Click here for more info on the cost of living in Cambodia.
The good news doesn’t end with cheaper nightlife, alcohol and hotels. The food factor is also an advantage. Whilst not regarded in quite the high esteem that Thai food and Vietnamese food command, Cambodian food is still good and much better than the salty, greasy garbage that passes for food in the Philippines! Cambodian girls like to cook too, so finding a worthy girlfriend that knows her way around a kitchen is not too much of a problem. If you dislike spicy food you’ll be particularly impressed because the Cambodians use fewer spices in their dishes. French colonization in years past has also left its mark, with fresh bread being readily available and better than anything the Thais can boast about.
Infrastructure, on the other hand, is lousy. Roads are poorly constructed and full of potholes, and some are nothing more than dirt-tracks. If you are approaching your twilight years and are concerned about healthcare then living in Cambodia might not be the best choice, medical skills are way behind neighbouring countries. The same can be said for education facilities, so raising a family there might not be a great idea either.
The general lack of economic development in Cambodia is not confined to physical infrastructure, health and education standards; the online facilities for meeting Cambodian girls are also relatively lacking. That’s true whether you are looking for a serious long-term relationship or an ultra-short 1 hour appointment. Escort sites are lacking (see link below for info on the Cambodia prostitution scene), and there are few dedicated dating sites for westerners intending to meet Cambodian girls.
I think that the fewer online opportunities reflects the fact that the country is still a little off most visitors’ radar, but you should also be aware that it is largely to do with the much smaller population in Cambodia compared to neighbouring countries i.e. currently just over 15 million compared to 67 million in Thailand (and around 100 million in the Philippines). Another factor is the lower standard of English language skills, meaning that finding a local interpreter to help out with online communication (the way that many rural Thai girls do) might not be so easily done.
For those amongst you that are undeterred and still intend to find romance with regular Cambodian girls, my advice is to create an online dating profile and be patient. I’d look for girls in Phnom Penh and, if you can find a worthy lady - Siem Reap. There are far fewer sex workers in Siam Reap so the chances of falling prey to a gold-digger are that bit lower. For similar reasons in a reverse direction, I’d avoid any contact with ladies from Sihanoukville because a large proportion of the girls there will be working in the sex industry.
The Phnom Penh Nightlife Scene – You’ll be happy to read that the range of entertainment options in Phnom Penh at night are good and they do offer a decent alternative if you like a more relaxed night out, but with all the usual opportunities to meet ladies…
The Cambodia Prostitution Scene – One of the big problems that persist is the propensity of Western society’s worst scumbags to go there in search of underage Cambodian girls working in the sex industry. Don’t allow these unsavoury characters to put you off visiting Cambodia though; most P4P visitors are more mainstream…
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